Dear Forgiving Girl,
What is it about forgiveness that is so difficult, even though holding a grudge or holding on to hurt or holding yucky old memories makes us feel so rotten.
What is it that makes it so hard to let go?
Forgiving someone does not mean that you let them back in your life. Forgiving is not ‘giving up’ or ‘giving in’, and it does NOT mean that you are saying that an injustice has not been done, or that you
agree with what happened, or that you are opening yourself up to be hurt again. It has nothing to do with saying something was ‘okay’, or that someone can escape the natural consequences of their actions. It has NOTHING to do with that other person.
The forgiveness we are talking about is a magic little decision that you make to free YOURSELF.
Bad feelings, horrid memories and grudges are little daggers that carve away at your soul day after day. Those daggers come with handcuffs and chains and one of those big metal balls latched to your ankle. Who wants to live like
that? Who CAN live life like that without it completely holding us back from everything that is meant for us?
You are worth EVERYTHING it will take to let that stinking bag of rot go. YOU are worth it. YOUR LIFE is worth it. Give yourself a deadline to let it go…then scream at the top of your lungs, write down everything that bothers you, get ALL of it out…then
when the deadline is up…let it go…put it down…walk away.
YOU CAN DO THIS. You can.
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